Many women are held captive by their relationship to food. Many women have disordered eating, even though they may not realize it. Many women see getting healthy as losing weight. Yes, losing weight may be an important part of getting healthy, but here’s the truth: losing weight doesn’t mean anything if you’re continually unhappy about yourself.
Getting healthy is as mental as it is physical, and this works in two ways.
The first way is that you can’t just decide one day that you want to get healthy then wake up 6 weeks later and consider yourself healthy. It’s a process, physically and mentally. No matter what your view of “healthier” looks like you have to change your mindset. Change doesn’t happen until you make the decision to change your actions. No matter what your view of “healthier” looks like, it will be mentally taxing. You’ll probably go back and forth, contemplate whether or not it’s worth it, tell yourself that one more time won’t kill you, you may even be elbow deep in a bag of butterfingers before you remember that you wanted to make a change in the first place. I’ve been there. I’ve mindlessly eaten the whole family size bag of Doritos before I remembered i was on a diet.
It takes intentional mental change to get healthy.
The second way getting healthy is as mental as it is physical is because you can be the poster child of healthy with at a perfect weight with a super flat stomach and next-to-zero percent body fat. But if you aren’t mentally healthy, if you’re constantly struggling with your relationship to food, or food consuming your thoughts, or display habits of disordered eating, you’re not healthy. You need to seek help.
Too many times people come to me and just want to lose weight as a way to get healthy, and yes, losing weight oftentimes is an important factor in disease prevention and other future medical issues. But it’s not about the number on the scale. If it was, then the emaciated people in third world countries would be the healthiest people on the planet.
So here are some steps you can take to truly define what healthy means to you:
- What does “healthy” look like? What does healthy eat, how does healthy talk to herself, how does healthy talk to her friends, her spouse, her co-workers? What were the steps that healthy took to get healthy? Who is supporting healthy in her journey? How much time does healthy spend praying or with her Bible during the day?
- Then take steps towards making your idea of healthy happen.Hire a coach, get involved in a community, get an accountability partner, hire a nutritionist, seek counseling, join a bible study. Do whatever you need to do to become healthy in more ways than just losing weight.
Of course, I hope you know by now that I’m beyond happy to create a plan for you to get physically stronger and lose weight, and I’ve got a nutritionist on my team who would love to help you as well.
Just remember that, no matter what your definition of healthy is, getting healthy is as mental as it is physical. Don’t stop until you reach healthy, then maintain healthy. I would love to help you! Click here to email me so we can set up a time to talk about which program would be best for you.